On the authority of his father that 'Aishah said: O my nephew, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) did not prefer one of us to the other in respect of his division of the time of his staying with us. It was very rare that he did not visit us any day (i.e. he visited all of us every day). He would come near each of his wives without having intercourse with her until he reached the one who had her day and passed his night with her. When Saudah daughter of Zam'ah became old and feared that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) would divorce her, she said: Messenger of Allah, I give to 'Aishah the day you visit me. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) accepted it from her. She said: We think that Allah, the Exalted, revealed about this or similar matter the Qur'anic verse: "If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part...." [4:128] - Hadith Abu Dawud 2135 (islam)
Whenever Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) intended to go on a journey, he used to draw lots amongst his wives, and
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to take with him the one on whom lot fell. He drew lots amongst us during one of
the Ghazwat which he fought. The lot fell on me and so I proceeded with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) after Allah's
order of veiling (the women) had been revealed. I was carried (on the back of a camel) in my howdah
and carried down while still in it (when we came to a halt). So we went on till Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) had
finished from that Ghazwa of his and returned.
When we approached the city of Medina he announced at night that it was time for departure. So
when they announced the news of departure, I got up and went away from the army camps, and after
finishing from the call of nature, I came back to my riding animal. I touched my chest to find that my
necklace which was made of Zifar beads (i.e. Yemenite beads partly black and partly white) was
missing. So I returned to look for my necklace and my search for it detained me. (In the meanwhile)
the people who used to carry me on my camel, came and took my howdah and put it on the back of
my camel on which I used to ride, as they considered that I was in it. In those days women were light
in weight for they did not get fat, and flesh did not cover their bodies in abundance as they used to eat
only a little food. Those people therefore, disregarded the lightness of the howdah while lifting and
carrying it; and at that time I was still a young girl. They made the camel rise and all of them left
(along with it). I found my necklace after the army had gone.
Then I came to their camping place to find no call maker of them, nor one who would respond to the
call. So I intended to go to the place where I used to stay, thinking that they would miss me and come
back to me (in my search). While I was sitting in my resting place, I was overwhelmed by sleep and
slept. Safwan bin Al-Muattal As-Sulami Adh-Dhakwani was behind the army. When he reached my
place in the morning, he saw the figure of a sleeping person and he recognized me on seeing me as he
had seen me before the order of compulsory veiling (was prescribed). So I woke up when he recited
Istirja' (i.e. "Inna li l-lahi wa inna llaihi raji'un") as soon as he recognized me. I veiled my face with
my head cover at once, and by Allah, we did not speak a single word, and I did not hear him saying
any word besides his Istirja'. He dismounted from his camel and made it kneel down, putting his leg
on its front legs and then I got up and rode on it. Then he set out leading the camel that was carrying
me till we overtook the army in the extreme heat of midday while they were at a halt (taking a rest).
(Because of the event) some people brought destruction upon themselves and the one who spread the
Ifk (i.e. slander) more, was `Abdullah bin Ubai Ibn Salul."
(Urwa said, "The people propagated the slander and talked about it in his (i.e. `Abdullah's) presence
and he confirmed it and listened to it and asked about it to let it prevail." `Urwa also added, "None
was mentioned as members of the slanderous group besides (`Abdullah) except Hassan bin Thabit and
Mistah bin Uthatha and Hamna bint Jahsh along with others about whom I have no knowledge, but
they were a group as Allah said. It is said that the one who carried most of the slander was `Abdullah
bin Ubai bin Salul." `Urwa added, "`Aisha disliked to have Hassan abused in her presence and she
used to say, 'It was he who said: My father and his (i.e. my father's) father and my honor are all for the
protection of Muhammad's honor from you.").
`Aisha added, "After we returned to Medina, I became ill for a month. The people were propagating
the forged statements of the slanderers while I was unaware of anything of all that, but I felt that in my
present ailment, I was not receiving the same kindness from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as I used to receive when
I got sick. (But now) Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) would only come, greet me and say,' How is that (lady)?' and
leave. That roused my doubts, but I did not discover the evil (i.e. slander) till I went out after my
convalescence, I went out with Um Mistah to Al-Manasi' where we used to answer the call of nature
and we used not to go out (to answer the call of nature) except at night, and that was before we had
latrines near our houses. And this habit of our concerning evacuating the bowels, was similar to the
habits of the old 'Arabs living in the deserts, for it would be troublesome for us to take latrines near
our houses. So I and Um Mistah who was the daughter of Abu Ruhm bin Al-Muttalib bin `Abd
Manaf, whose mother was the daughter of Sakhr bin 'Amir and the aunt of Abu Bakr As-Siddiq and
whose son was Mistah bin Uthatha bin `Abbas bin Al-Muttalib, went out. I and Um Mistah returned to
my house after we finished answering the call of nature. Um Mistah stumbled by getting her foot
entangled in her covering sheet and on that she said, 'Let Mistah be ruined!' I said, 'What a hard word
you have said. Do you abuse a man who took part in the battle of Badr?' On that she said, 'O you
Hantah! Didn't you hear what he (i.e. Mistah) said? 'I said, 'What did he say?'
Then she told me the slander of the people of Ifk. So my ailment was aggravated, and when I reached
my home, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came to me, and after greeting me, said, 'How is that (lady)?' I said, 'Will
you allow me to go to my parents?' as I wanted to be sure about the news through them. Allah's
Apostle allowed me (and I went to my parents) and asked my mother, 'O mother! What are the people
talking about?' She said, 'O my daughter! Don't worry, for scarcely is there a charming woman who is
loved by her husband and whose husband has other wives besides herself that they (i.e. women) would
find faults with her.' I said, 'Subhan-Allah! (I testify the uniqueness of Allah). Are the people really
talking in this way?' I kept on weeping that night till dawn I could neither stop weeping nor sleep then
in the morning again, I kept on weeping. When the Divine Inspiration was delayed.
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) called `Ali bin Abi Talib and Usama bin Zaid to ask and consult them about divorcing
me. Usama bin Zaid said what he knew of my innocence, and the respect he preserved in himself for
me. Usama said, '(O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)!) She is your wife and we do not know anything except good
about her.' `Ali bin Abi Talib said, 'O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! Allah does not put you in difficulty and there
are plenty of women other than she, yet, ask the maid-servant who will tell you the truth.' On that
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) called Barira (i.e. the maid-servant) and said, 'O Barira! Did you ever see anything
which aroused your suspicion?' Barira said to him, 'By Him Who has sent you with the Truth. I have
never seen anything in her (i.e. Aisha) which I would conceal, except that she is a young girl who
sleeps leaving the dough of her family exposed so that the domestic goats come and eat it.'
So, on that day, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) got up on the pulpit and complained about `Abdullah bin Ubai (bin
Salul) before his companions, saying, 'O you Muslims! Who will relieve me from that man who has
hurt me with his evil statement about my family? By Allah, I know nothing except good about my
family and they have blamed a man about whom I know nothing except good and he used never to
enter my home except with me.' Sa`d bin Mu`adh the brother of Banu `Abd Al-Ashhal got up and
said, 'O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I will relieve you from him; if he is from the tribe of Al-Aus, then I will chop
his head off, and if he is from our brothers, i.e. Al-Khazraj, then order us, and we will fulfill your
order.' On that, a man from Al-Khazraj got up. Um Hassan, his cousin, was from his branch tribe, and
he was Sa`d bin Ubada, chief of Al-Khazraj. Before this incident, he was a pious man, but his love for
his tribe goaded him into saying to Sa`d (bin Mu`adh). 'By Allah, you have told a lie; you shall not
and cannot kill him. If he belonged to your people, you would not wish him to be killed.'
On that, Usaid bin Hudair who was the cousin of Sa`d (bin Mu`adh) got up and said to Sa`d bin
'Ubada, 'By Allah! You are a liar! We will surely kill him, and you are a hypocrite arguing on the
behalf of hypocrites.' On this, the two tribes of Al-Aus and Al Khazraj got so much excited that they
were about to fight while Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) was standing on the pulpit. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) kept on
quietening them till they became silent and so did he. All that day I kept on weeping with my tears
never ceasing, and I could never sleep.
In the morning my parents were with me and I wept for two nights and a day with my tears never
ceasing and I could never sleep till I thought that my liver would burst from weeping. So, while my
parents were sitting with me and I was weeping, an Ansari woman asked me to grant her admittance. I
allowed her to come in, and when she came in, she sat down and started weeping with me. While we
were in this state, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) came, greeted us and sat down. He had never sat with me since that
day of the slander. A month had elapsed and no Divine Inspiration came to him about my case. Allah's
Apostle then recited Tashah-hud and then said, 'Amma Badu, O `Aisha! I have been informed so-andso
about you; if you are innocent, then soon Allah will reveal your innocence, and if you have
committed a sin, then repent to Allah and ask Him for forgiveness for when a slave confesses his sins
and asks Allah for forgiveness, Allah accepts his repentance.'
(continued...)
(continuing... 1): -5.462:... ...
When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) finished his speech, my tears ceased flowing completely that I no longer felt a
single drop of tear flowing. I said to my father, 'Reply to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) on my behalf concerning
what he has said.' My father said, 'By Allah, I do not know what to say to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) .' Then I
said to my mother, 'Reply to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) on my behalf concerning what he has said.' She said, 'By
Allah, I do not know what to say to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ).' In spite of the fact that I was a young girl and had
a little knowledge of Qur'an, I said, 'By Allah, no doubt I know that you heard this (slanderous) speech
so that it has been planted in your hearts (i.e. minds) and you have taken it as a truth. Now if I tell you
that I am innocent, you will not believe me, and if confess to you about it, and Allah knows that I am
innocent, you will surely believe me. By Allah, I find no similitude for me and you except that of
Joseph's father when he said, '(For me) patience in the most fitting against that which you assert; it is
Allah (Alone) Whose Help can be sought.' Then I turned to the other side and lay on my bed; and
Allah knew then that I was innocent and hoped that Allah would reveal my innocence. But, by Allah, I
never thought that Allah would reveal about my case, Divine Inspiration, that would be recited
(forever) as I considered myself too unworthy to be talked of by Allah with something of my concern,
but I hoped that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) might have a dream in which Allah would prove my innocence. But,
by Allah, before Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) left his seat and before any of the household left, the Divine
inspiration came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ).
So there overtook him the same hard condition which used to overtake him, (when he used to be
inspired Divinely). The sweat was dropping from his body like pearls though it was a wintry day and
that was because of the weighty statement which was being revealed to him. When that state of
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) was over, he got up smiling, and the first word he said was, 'O `Aisha! Allah has
declared your innocence!' Then my Mother said to me, 'Get up and go to him (i.e. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)). I
replied, 'By Allah, I will not go to him, and I praise none but Allah. So Allah revealed the ten Verses:-
- "Verily! They who spread the slander Are a gang, among you............." (24.11-20)
Allah revealed those Qur'anic Verses to declare my innocence. Abu Bakr As-Siddiq who used to
disburse money for Mistah bin Uthatha because of his relationship to him and his poverty, said, 'By
Allah, I will never give to Mistah bin Uthatha anything after what he has said about Aisha.' Then
Allah revealed:--
"And let not those among you who are good and wealthy swear not to give (any sort of help) to their
kinsmen, those in need, and those who have left their homes for Allah's cause, let them pardon and
forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is oft-Forgiving Most Merciful."
(24.22)
Abu Bakr As-Siddiq said, 'Yes, by Allah, I would like that Allah forgive me.' and went on giving
Mistah the money he used to give him before. He also added, 'By Allah, I will never deprive him of it
at all.'
Aisha further said:." Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) also asked Zainab bint Jahsh (i.e. his wife) about my case. He
said to Zainab, 'What do you know and what did you see?" She replied, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I refrain
from claiming falsely that I have heard or seen anything. By Allah, I know nothing except good (about
`Aisha).' From amongst the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) Zainab was my peer (in beauty and in the love she
received from the Prophet) but Allah saved her from that evil because of her piety. Her sister Hamna,
started struggling on her behalf and she was destroyed along with those who were destroyed. The man
who was blamed said, 'Subhan-Allah! By Him in Whose Hand my soul is, I have never uncovered the
cover (i.e. veil) of any female.' Later on the man was martyred in Allah's Cause." - Hadith Al Bukhari 4141 (islam)
'A'isha asked: What disrupts the prayer? We said: The woman and the ass. Upon this she remarked: Is the woman an ugly animal? I lay in front of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) like the bier of a corpse and he said prayer. - Hadith Muslim 512c (islam)
Hadith Muslim 512d (en en2) It was mentioned before'A'isha that prayer is invalidated (in case of passing) of a dog, an ass and a woman (before the worshipper, when he is not screened). Upon this 'A'isha said: You likened us to the asses and the dogs. By Allah I saw the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying prayer while I lay on the bedstead interposing between him and the Qibla. When I felt the need, I did not like to wit to front (of the Holy Prophet) and perturb the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and quietly moved out from under its (i. e. of the bedstead) legs. - Hadith Muslim 512d (islam)
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. - Quran An-Nisa(The Women) 4:34 (islam)
AbuUsayd heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say when he was coming out of the mosque, and men and women were mingled in the road: Draw back, for you must not walk in the middle of the road; keep to the sides of the road. Then women were keeping so close to the wall that their garments were rubbing against it.
- Hadith Abu Dawud 5272 (islam)
Chapter: The purchase of animals and donkeys
Narrated Jabir bin `Abdullah:
I was with the Prophet (ﷺ) in a Ghazwa (Military Expedition) and my camel was slow and exhausted. The Prophet came up to me and said, "O Jabir." I replied, "Yes?" He said, "What is the matter with you?" I replied, "My camel is slow and tired, so I am left behind." So, he got down and poked the camel with his stick and then ordered me to ride. I rode the camel and it became so fast that I had to hold it from going ahead of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) . He then asked me, have you got married?" I replied in the affirmative. He asked, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "I married a matron." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Why have you not married a virgin, so that you may play with her and she may play with you?" Jabir replied, "I have sisters (young in age) so I liked to marry a matron who could collect them all and comb their hair and look after them." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You will reach, so when you have arrived (at home), I advise you to associate with your wife (that you may have an intelligent son)." Then he asked me, "Would you like to sell your camel?" I replied in the affirmative and the Prophet (ﷺ) purchased it for one Uqiya of gold. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) reached before me and I reached in the morning, and when I went to the mosque, I found him at the door of the mosque. He asked me, "Have you arrived just now?" I replied in the affirmative. He said, "Leave your camel and come into (the mosque) and pray two rak`at." I entered and offered the prayer. He told Bilal to weigh and give me one Uqiya of gold. So Bilal weighed for me fairly and I went away. The Prophet (ﷺ) sent for me and I thought that he would return to me my camel which I hated more than anything else. But the Prophet (ﷺ) said to me, "Take your camel as well as its price." - Hadith Al Bukhari 2097 (islam)
Hadith Al Bukhari 5367 (en en2) My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "O
Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he
said, "Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her
and she amuse you." I said, " `Abdullah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl
like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them." On that he said, "May Allah
bless you," or "That is good." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5367 (islam)
Chapter: The slave is a guardian of the property of his master.
Narrated `Abdullah bin `Umar:
That he heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying, "Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charge; the ruler is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects; the man is a guardian in his family and responsible for his charges; a woman is a guardian of her husband's house and responsible for her charges; and the servant is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for his charge." I definitely heard the above from the Prophet (ﷺ) and think that the Prophet (ﷺ) also said, "A man is a guardian of his father's property and responsible for his charges; so everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges." - Hadith Al Bukhari 2558 (islam)
Hadith Al Bukhari 5195 (en en2) Submission and role (22) A wife should not allow anyone to enter his house except with the permission of her husband
Chapter: A woman should not allow anyone to enter the house except husband's consent (here too)
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5195 (islam)
Chapter: Recommendations with regard to Women
'Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he had heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, "Treat women kindly, they are like captives in your hands; you do not owe anything else from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing".
[At- Tirmidhi, who categorized it as Hadith Hasan Sahih].
- Hadith Riyad as-Salihin 276 (islam)
Quran Al-Ahzab(The Confederates) 33:33 (en en2 tfs tfs2) Submission and role (22) Abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as the display of the former times of ignorance
And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance. And establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity [of sin], O people of the [Prophet's] household, and to purify you with [extensive] purification. - Quran Al-Ahzab(The Confederates) 33:33 (islam)
Chapter: Recommendation to the one who sees a woman and is attracted to her, to go to his wife or slave woman and have intercourse with her
Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saw a woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to his Companions and told them:
The woman advances and retires in the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart. - Hadith Muslim 1403a (islam)
Hadith Tirmidhi 1158 (en en2) Chapter: What has been related about a man who sees a woman and becomes fascinated with her
Jabir (bin Abdullah) narrated:
“The Prophet saw a woman, then he went to Zainab to fulfill his need and he left. He said: ‘Indeed when the woman enters, she enters in the image of Shaitan. So when one of you sees a woman that he is fascinated with, then let him go to his wife, for indeed with her (his wife) is the same as that which is with her.” - Hadith Tirmidhi 1158 (islam)
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. - Bible Genesis 3:16 (bible torah)
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. - Bible 1 Corinthians 11:3 (bible)
[12]But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
[13]For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
[14]And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
[15]Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. - Bible 1 Timothy 2:12-15 (bible)
Bible 1 Timothy 2:9-11 (en) Submission and role (22) I want the women to dress modestly and learn in quietness and full submission
[9]In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
[10]But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
[11]Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. - Bible 1 Timothy 2:9-11 (bible)
Chapter: The Rights That The Husband Has Over The Wife
Narrated Qays ibn Sa'd:
I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, so I said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (ﷺ), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Messenger of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. - Hadith Abu Dawud 2140 (islam)
Chapter: What evil omen of a lady is to be warded off
Narrated Usama bin Zaid:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "After me I have not left any trial more severe to men than women." - Hadith Al Bukhari 5096 (islam)
Hadith Muslim 2740 (en en2) I have not left after me any (chance) of turmoil more injurious to men than the harm done to the men because of women. - Hadith Muslim 2740 (islam)
As for a woman, if she needs to marry, it is recommended for her to do so, though if she does not, (0; not feeling any sexual desire within herself, and she is engaged in worship,) then it is offensive for her to do so. (N: Though such a woman needs a husband or unmarriageable relative to travel and so forth (dis: m10.3).)
DESIRABLE CHARACfERISTICS IN A BRIDE mlA It is recommended for a man to marry a virgin (0: unless there is a reason not to, such as sexual incapacity or needing someone to take care of his children) (A: though it is permissible to marry a nonvirgin even if she has not previously married (dis: p12.1(3(n:)))) who is fertile (0:
which in a virgin is inferable from her relatives), attractive, intelligent, religious, of a good family, and not a close relative. (0: In Sharh al-Minhaj, Ibn Hajar notes that when one must choose between the above characteristics, the order of preference should be:
(1) religiousness, which takes precedence over anything else;
(2) intelligence;
(3) a good character and disposition;
(4) fertility;
(5) a good family;
(6) virginity;
(7) beauty;
(8) and then that which fulfills some other relevant interest.)
* - Fiqh Umdat m1.3 (islam)
